How to Deal with a Depressed Person?

Depression is a 10-letter word: 4 vowels and 6 consonants. But, it is a very serious mental illness that can destroy a person – a person who can be your wife, your husband, your sister, your brother, your parent, your son, your daughter, your closest friend, or someone who sits beside you in a bus or train.

Some depressed people are good at hiding it from others. They smile at you like there is nothing wrong, so you will just be surprised when you hear that he or she attempted to commit suicide or when you hear that he or she slashed his or her wrist or hanged himself or herself and is dead.

What would you do when you know someone who is suffering from depression? If you never had depression, you never know what they’re feeling or going through; therefore, you have to be educated so that you know what you are going to say or do to them and you won’t feel helpless.

There are many ways how to help a depressed person:

Be a good listener. A depressed person feels like he or she is alone. He or she feels empty. If he or she opens up, listen. Don’t interrupt. Some are confused and talk slowly because their brain does not function well due to lack of sleep or not eating properly, so be patient. Let him or her talk and make sure you let him or her feel that you sympathize him or her. Let him or her feel that she is not alone, that someone really cares and willing to listen regardless of what comes out of his or her mouth.

Do the daily chores. A depressed person does not like to move or get out of bed. They may not be physically sick but you have to consider them as if they are. Do the daily chores and never complain. This is if you are living with them. Don’t let them think that you are tired of doing everything at home or that you think they are lazy, because it will just make things worse.

Read about depression. There are a lot of articles about depression online, and there are a lot of books about depression. You need to learn about it so that you can somehow understand who you are dealing with.

When the depressed person is talking about suicide, don’t laugh or ignore. Instead, take it seriously and call for help. Prevention is better than cure. Act before it is too late because a depressed person thinks life is unimportant and death is the best cure.

If the depression is getting worse, advice the person to seek treatment or professional help. If already on treatment, be there for him or her. Make sure he or she goes to appointments or takes his or her medication.

 

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My New Favorite Side Dish

I never thought I would love to eat raw leaves. Pait man ang kalamunggay kung kilawon gud. 😊 But I slowly become open minded and interested to try new things, except eating raw fish or meat. 

This salad prepared by my husband was so damn tasty. He mixed it with sugar, salt, citrus, vinegar, onions, mustard seeds, pepper, basil leaves, oregano leaves, tomatoes, garlic, and olive oil. It’s now my favorite side dish. 😋😍😘 

Artist – a Spektrum glasses

Artist glasses
Photo credit: Spektrum Glasses

If your work requires you to spend more hours in front of a computer, if you are a mobile gamer who spends day and/or night playing with your computer, if you are into social media that you spend too much time with your devices (smartphones or tablets), or if you are a binge-watcher who enjoys watching TV series almost non-stop, your eyes are at risk of getting destroyed too soon due to the blue light that the devices are releasing.

To read what blue lights can do to your eyes, click here: The Effects of Blue Lights.

Your eyes are very important. It is one of the five important senses that should be taken care of. You don’t want to lose your eyesight, do you?

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Troubles at Work

Life-and-work

 “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.”

It is one of the quotes that my favorite teacher in high school shared to us. It is one of the sayings that’s easy to memorize, easy to spell out, does not need to be written down, and does not need to spend a lot of hours to figure out what it means.

At a young age, it meant nothing to me. It’s just a quote, a funny one, because of Jack. Why the name needs to be Jack, right? (grinning)

In the past, I heard the adults saying the words “burnout,” “stressed,” “the work is very stressful,” “I’m done,” “I want to quit my job,” etc. These words for a young mind were nothing. They didn’t make sense.

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The Seven Rules of Life


A life without sorrows is boring. A life without challenges and hardships is pointless. A life without purpose is lonely and depressing.
The challenges and hardships help us grow and become a better version of ourselves. They make us strive to live the life we want.

However, some of us break when facing them. We isolate ourselves. We build walls. We start to hate life. We start to hate the people that caused us pain. We become lonely and weak. We want to blame the others for what happened to us. Worse, some of us will turn to prohibited drugs and drinking too much alcohol, while the others sadly turned to suicide.

To pursuit happiness and have a carefree life, there are seven rules that we need to consider applying:

1. “Make peace with your past so it won’t disturb your future.”

Your past may not be nice. You may have encountered people who broke your heart. But this does not mean you cannot be happy today and tomorrow. Don’t let the past destroy your future. Deal with your past. Try acceptance. Not all things can be in your favor. You cannot please everyone. The past is the past. Move on. If you failed in the past, it does not mean you will always fail. Challenge yourself. Don’t let the past ruin your present that can lead to a more ruined future.

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