Do you know someone whom you think can be a good friend, but later on you realized he or she’s just a backstabbing bitch? Excuse me for my French. 🙂 I am asking because I know one.
I am struggling to find a friend, a confidante, because I have trust issues. I don’t trust easily. I have lost faith in humanity because I see treachery, disloyalty, unfaithfulness, duplicity, false-heartedness, and deception firsthand and I have seen a lot of movies about betrayals and deceits. Everybody just wants to be somebody other than being trustworthy, to advance themselves further regardless of who’s gonna get hurt along the way.
In a country where being friendly is not everyone’s priority, it is really hard to find a friend. So when I was on my lowest point and wanted to resign from my position, a colleague in sheep’s clothing approached me and offered some help. I thought she was genuine.
There were some shocking events at my work in the past few days. Our supervisor resigned. She applied for another position in another department, same company. I guess she could no longer handle the stress. She was handling a growing number of employees, and she had a lot of tasks aside from supervising us. She’s able to neutralize our situation. Our project is new, not even a year-old yet, and because of her knowledge and skills with the tool we’re using, she’s able to contribute and helped us learn it the fast way.
Now that she’s gone, another supervisor is tasked to handle us. That is not the problem as she’s an approachable, kindhearted, and good leader. The problem is our country lead was assigned to another area. We’ve been told the position was offered to her as she has more advanced IT skills and she knows the tool more than anyone else so she can help a lot, she can help solve the existing issues. Because of her transfer, she appointed her close friend and seatmate to be the new country lead, which angers another colleague because he was our trainer. He was next to the previous country lead when it comes to seniority or longevity. He trained all of us, and the fact that he was not even considered for the job he got so furious and jealous and betrayed.
I stumbled upon a piece from Vera Nazarian’s book entitled “The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration”:
What do you think? Do you agree with her?
My best friend is my husband. We’ve been through a lot. We fought, we laughed, we cried. I don’t think I can find another person who can understand me and accept me for who I am, for what I have become.
I have friends in high school, in college, and in my previous job. Some are still in contact with me, thanks to Facebook. But it is really different because I am now living in another country. Things changed as we don’t see each other everyday anymore.
Right now I am struggling to find a new friend. I have workmates, but too early to call some as friends. I guess it is true. It takes time and effort to have a friend and to become a friend.
While watching the El Clasico last Saturday, some players of Real Madrid tried to injure Messi, tried their best to avoid him from scoring. They intentionally or unintentionally hit him, to the point where he’s down and bleeding.
I thought to myself, is it worth it? Do they feel happy seeing an opponent going down? Seeing someone bleeding? Is it because of the money or is it because of the pressure. They are Real Madrid. They are expected to win. But so as Barcelona. With millions of fans watching and with a lot of money at stakes, obviously winning was the target, no matter whose bones got broken.
I find it wrong, especially because a player can be sold to another club, which can be the opponents’ club which is rarely happening though. Why don’t they just play and be a good sport. May the best club win without needing to injure someone.
But well, it’s just my opinion. And they don’t care about it.