A Long Distance Relationship That Didn’t Last

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A young couple declared their love for each other on social media, mostly on Facebook because the other one uses free data.

Their respective families, friends, relatives, classmates, schoolmates, colleagues at work, neighbors, acquaintances, and others were witnesses to their immense love for each other.

The girl would post about how she misses him. How she wished he’s there hugging and kissing her, instead of talking to each other on Skype or Messenger. The guy would then post about how he loves her so much and if only she’s with him in a desert country but promises financial stabilization and wonderful future.

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Trustworthy She Is Not

Do you know someone whom you think can be a good friend, but later on you realized he or she’s just a backstabbing bitch? Excuse me for my French. 🙂 I am asking because I know one.

I am struggling to find a friend, a confidante, because I have trust issues. I don’t trust easily. I have lost faith in humanity because I see treachery, disloyalty, unfaithfulness, duplicity, false-heartedness, and deception firsthand and I have seen a lot of movies about betrayals and deceits. Everybody just wants to be somebody other than being trustworthy, to advance themselves further regardless of who’s gonna get hurt along the way.

In a country where being friendly is not everyone’s priority, it is really hard to find a friend. So when I was on my lowest point and wanted to resign from my position, a colleague in sheep’s clothing approached me and offered some help. I thought she was genuine.

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Friends…

I stumbled upon a piece from Vera Nazarian’s book entitled “The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration”:

Friends

What do you think? Do you agree with her?

My best friend is my husband. We’ve been through a lot. We fought, we laughed, we cried. I don’t think I can find another person who can understand me and accept me for who I am, for what I have become.

I have friends in high school, in college, and in my previous job. Some are still in contact with me, thanks to Facebook. But it is really different because I am now living in another country. Things changed as we don’t see each other everyday anymore.

Right now I am struggling to find a new friend. I have workmates, but too early to call some as friends. I guess it is true. It takes time and effort to have a friend and to become a friend.

How to Deal with a Depressed Person?

Depression is a 10-letter word: 4 vowels and 6 consonants. But, it is a very serious mental illness that can destroy a person – a person who can be your wife, your husband, your sister, your brother, your parent, your son, your daughter, your closest friend, or someone who sits beside you in a bus or train.

Some depressed people are good at hiding it from others. They smile at you like there is nothing wrong, so you will just be surprised when you hear that he or she attempted to commit suicide or when you hear that he or she slashed his or her wrist or hanged himself or herself and is dead.

What would you do when you know someone who is suffering from depression? If you never had depression, you never know what they’re feeling or going through; therefore, you have to be educated so that you know what you are going to say or do to them and you won’t feel helpless.

There are many ways how to help a depressed person:

Be a good listener. A depressed person feels like he or she is alone. He or she feels empty. If he or she opens up, listen. Don’t interrupt. Some are confused and talk slowly because their brain does not function well due to lack of sleep or not eating properly, so be patient. Let him or her talk and make sure you let him or her feel that you sympathize him or her. Let him or her feel that she is not alone, that someone really cares and willing to listen regardless of what comes out of his or her mouth.

Do the daily chores. A depressed person does not like to move or get out of bed. They may not be physically sick but you have to consider them as if they are. Do the daily chores and never complain. This is if you are living with them. Don’t let them think that you are tired of doing everything at home or that you think they are lazy, because it will just make things worse.

Read about depression. There are a lot of articles about depression online, and there are a lot of books about depression. You need to learn about it so that you can somehow understand who you are dealing with.

When the depressed person is talking about suicide, don’t laugh or ignore. Instead, take it seriously and call for help. Prevention is better than cure. Act before it is too late because a depressed person thinks life is unimportant and death is the best cure.

If the depression is getting worse, advice the person to seek treatment or professional help. If already on treatment, be there for him or her. Make sure he or she goes to appointments or takes his or her medication.

 

The Stolen Years – a Love-and-Tragedy Story

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It is the English title of a Chinese movie. The first few scenes were about a couple (named Yu and Mann) who likes to film themselves while traveling, eating, driving, etc. They were so sweet and so full of love for each other. They just got married.

One time she asked him to kiss her while they were on a motorcycle driving somewhere. She was filming their trip and was insistent so he turned his head to kiss her but then they met an accident.

The next scene was in a hospital. She woke up. And the first thing she looked for was her husband. Her sister was surprised because they were divorced so she told her about it. She was surprised as she thought she just woke up from the motorcycle accident, which happened during their honeymoon. But, she woke up from another accident (a car one which would be revealed later on in the movie) which she couldn’t recall.

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