How Facebook Makes You Unhappy

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I first learned about Facebook in 2007. One of my closest friends invited me to join or sign up. At that time, Friendster was quite popular. Myspace as well. But, Yahoo Messenger was dominating the chatting/messaging world.

I signed up and tried to invite my work colleagues. I had even a contest with another colleague I invited: Who between the two of us could get more Facebook friends in a short period of time would win.

Of course he won. He knew a lot of people. He was a part-time make-up artist and had a lot of clients, plus he was quite popular at school as his Mama was a teacher. It was a fun game though.

Anyway right now, most of the Facebook users are unhappier and lonelier. Based on my Facebook friends’ posts, some bragged about what they have or where they were, for example, what new expensive things they just bought, what brand they’re wearing, where outside the country they currently are, etc.

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Trustworthy She Is Not

Do you know someone whom you think can be a good friend, but later on you realized he or she’s just a backstabbing bitch?¬†Excuse me for my French. ūüôā I am asking because I know one.

I¬†am struggling to find a friend, a confidante, because I have trust issues. I don’t trust easily. I have¬†lost faith in humanity because I see treachery, disloyalty, unfaithfulness, duplicity, false-heartedness, and deception firsthand and I have seen a lot of movies about betrayals and deceits. Everybody just wants to be somebody other than being trustworthy, to advance themselves further regardless of who’s gonna get hurt along the way.

In a country where being friendly is not everyone’s priority, it is really hard to find a friend. So when¬†I was on my lowest point and wanted to resign from my position, a colleague in sheep’s clothing approached me and offered some help. I thought she was genuine.

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How to Deal with a Depressed Person?

Depression is a 10-letter word: 4 vowels and 6 consonants. But, it is a very serious mental illness that can destroy a person Рa person who can be your wife, your husband, your sister, your brother, your parent, your son, your daughter, your closest friend, or someone who sits beside you in a bus or train.

Some depressed people are good at hiding it from others. They smile at you like there is nothing wrong, so you will just be surprised when you hear that he or she attempted to commit suicide or when you hear that he or she slashed his or her wrist or hanged himself or herself and is dead.

What would you do when you know someone who is suffering from depression? If you never had depression, you never¬†know what they’re feeling or going through; therefore, you have to¬†be educated so that you know what you are going to say or do to them and you won’t feel helpless.

There are many ways how to help a depressed person:

Be a good listener. A depressed person¬†feels like he or she is alone. He or she feels empty. If he or she opens up, listen. Don’t interrupt. Some are confused and talk slowly because their brain does not function well due to lack of sleep or¬†not eating properly, so be patient. Let him or her¬†talk and make sure you let him or her feel that you sympathize him or her. Let him or her feel that she is not alone, that someone really cares and willing to listen regardless of what comes out of his or her mouth.

Do¬†the daily chores. A depressed person does not like to move or get out of bed. They may not be physically sick but you have to consider them as if they are. Do the daily chores and never complain. This is if you are living with them. Don’t let them think that you are tired of doing everything at home or that you think they are lazy, because it will just make things worse.

Read about depression. There are a lot of articles about depression online, and there are a lot of books about depression. You need to learn about it so that you can somehow understand who you are dealing with.

When the depressed person is¬†talking about suicide, don’t laugh or ignore. Instead, take it seriously and call for help. Prevention is better than cure. Act before it is too late because a depressed person thinks life is unimportant and death is the best cure.

If the depression is getting worse, advice the person to seek treatment or professional help. If already on treatment, be there for him or her. Make sure he or she goes to appointments or takes his or her medication.

 

Troubles at Work

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 “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.”

It is one of the quotes that my favorite teacher in high school shared to us. It is one of the sayings that’s easy to memorize, easy to spell out, does not need to be written down, and does not need to spend a lot of hours to figure out what it means.

At a young age, it meant nothing to me. It’s just a quote, a funny one, because of Jack. Why the name needs to be Jack, right? (grinning)

In the past, I heard the adults saying the words “burnout,” “stressed,” “the work is very stressful,” “I’m done,” “I want to quit my job,” etc. These words for a young mind were nothing. They didn’t make sense.

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